What happens when your whole world changes?
Life was moving along pretty smoothly here at the acreage with things all going according to “plan”. The girls were rolling along with school, activities and grad preparation (that whole thing requires a lot of outfit changes I am finding out), my business and life strategy was structured and growing and there was still lots of time and energy for extra fun events and anything that popped up. We had a plan and we were implementing it.
And then…life happened.
And it has changed everything. Nothing is the same. Because we aren’t the same.
It has changed what is most relevant in our world. (Listen in to the latest podcast Episode 73: Are you Relevant?)
This event shifted the trajectory of our lives.
It made me have to think differently and call on every skill I had to walk us through it.
And the ripple effect of the change continues to impact us as we are refocusing and moving forward based on the life that we truly want now.
Here’s what happened just two weeks ago that has shifted the trajectory of our lives…
My oldest daughter (who is turning 18 at the end of the month) was studying in her room and I received a phone call from one of my closest friends. I knew by the tone of her voice that it wasn’t good.
The phone call revealed that there had been a tragic accident and my daughter’s best friend had been in an accident and had died.
My daughter’s response was everything you can imagine it to be. It was like watching someone break right before your eyes. As a parent, it was devastating to watch. She was broken. Her normal was no longer normal (and still isn’t). Her plans for the next few months and her grad date were gone. She was forced to grow up in an instant and deal with a loss that most will not ever experience. As I watched her over the next few days and all of his friends at the funeral, my heart broke for all of them.
Because they were experiencing something that will forever change them. I do believe that change and personal expansion is what life is about but this change is unexplainable, of significant impact and hard to accept and really hard to understand.
Why am I sharing this?
I created this business and working online so that I could be a very active parent when my kids needed me most. And that is of course what happened over these last two weeks and I am so grateful to have created this life and ability to take care of my girls when they need me most.
AND, most importantly, I am sharing this because…
I believe that transparency and sharing the hard stuff is key to growth and expansion.
I’m real. Crappy things happen. Big stuff happens and I want to share how I “handle” it and move through it. My work, my training, my personal power, my faith and belief in the universe and my mindset has carried me through this past two weeks. (I did a video on how my mindset was a saviour, click here to watch it.)
I believe that everything does happen for a reason.
I also believe that not every reason is clear right away and that is the hardest part of any experience like this.
I thought that when my daughter Kassidy died 11 years ago, the message for me was to live more fully and to encourage others to do the same. I have built my business on this belief and I have created all of the programs because of it. I promised her that I would embrace my life and honor her by living fully. And I have done that.
This past week though, I realized that my daughter Kassidy’s death actually prepared me most for walking my oldest daughter through the death of her best friend.
I would not have understood the grief had I not lived it.
I would not have had the depth of understanding of the pain and the void that is created had I not experienced it first hand.
And I would not have known how nothing would feel relevant anymore after something like this unless I had walked that path.
I would not have truly understood had my second eldest daughter not have died. I can serve my oldest daughter more because of my experience. These life experiences do serve us and the reason will always be revealed.
Kelly, one of my clients, posted this and it couldn’t be more true when any BIG circumstance happens in your life…
“..The depth of your tears, your sorrow, your fierceness of your anger now will carve a place inside you for understanding.
You may at some point be called on by life to serve from your past pain — with a kind word, a wise nod and ‘I understand what you’re going through’ -
your word or deed may travel far with another and serve to lift them up…”
Significant life experiences forever change us (they are meant to) and we will use them to shine our light when we are called to. I have not been the same since Kassidy died, it carved into me an understanding that I didn’t even know I needed until 2 weeks ago…
My daughter is now going through the same life altering experience and at some point, she will be called upon for her wisdom and her experience as I will be again and as you will be too.
So, if you are currently going through something that is shifting your world, that is changing everything or that feels deeply uncomfortable…
KNOW that you CAN move through it and you won’t always know how it is meant to serve you but at some point in your life it will. The path has been determined and you will find your way and the reason always reveals itself.
And also know that things will change you and that’s okay.
We are meant to change.
And you are meant to share that change with the world.
I questioned everything in my life and the actions that I was taking in the last two weeks. What is still relevant? What am I wasting time and energy on? What will I do next? What do I truly want?
When life pushes you (and it will)…use the opportunity to assess it all and
make the necessary changes to live the life that you desire.
This young man, who passed on, was one of the BRIGHTEST lights I have ever known. He was unlike anyone I had ever met. He shone bright, he knew what he wanted even at his young age, he a plan (a solid one) and he showed up daily being who he was meant to be. He knew who he was.
I encourage you to do the same.
It’s time to rise.
It’s time to SHINE BRIGHTER.
It’s time to stop stopping.
It’s time to do you.
The podcast I recorded just prior to this life experience and passing on of this bright light was Episode 72: What if today were your last day? While, it wasn’t recorded based on it being your last day living on this earth, the message has hit home with me even more now. I encourage you to have a listen.
If you are going through something hard right now, or if a hard time comes, you are exactly where you need to be and all you need to do is to continue to move forward one step at a time. The universe always has your back.
If there is someone you know that could benefit from this message, please share it with them.
Create the life that you desire, do YOU.
Jill Ethier, Personal Strategist and Energetic Ninja
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